John Reisdorf v. Emily Poling

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 24-1852
Filed October 1, 2025

JOHN REISDORF,
Plaintiff-Appellant,

vs.

EMILY POLING,
Defendant-Appellee.
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Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Scott County, Jeffrey C. McDaniel,

Judge.

A grandfather appeals the denial of his petition for grandparent visitation

rights. AFFIRMED.

Jack E. Dusthimer, Davenport, for appellant.

Robert S. Gallagher of Gallagher, Millage & Gallagher, P.L.C., Bettendorf,

for appellee.

Considered without oral argument by Tabor, C.J., and Greer and Buller, JJ.
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GREER, Judge.

John Reisdorf argues he met all statutory requirements that would allow him

to exercise grandparent visitation under Iowa Code chapter 600C (2023). He

appeals the district court’s decision that he did not.

John’s biological son, Michael Dumerauf, had two children with Emily

Poling: H.D (born in 2017) and C.D. (born in 2018). After his son died in July 2021,

John sought visitation rights with his grandchildren. The district court weighed the

rebuttable presumption that “a fit parent’s decision to deny visitation to a

grandparent . . . is in the best interest of a minor child” against John’s burden to

show otherwise and determined that John failed to meet that burden. Iowa Code

§ 600C.1(2). We agree that John did not meet the high burden to overcome the

presumption that Emily’s decision was in the best interests of John’s grandchildren.

Facts and Procedural History.

In August 2023, John petitioned for grandparent rights under chapter 600C

after Emily did not disclose where she was living and cut off all previously

scheduled visitations between John and the children. John maintained that he had

frequent contact with the children both before and after his son’s death. When

Emily was pregnant with her second child and Michael was incarcerated, she and

the oldest child lived with John for a “couple of months” in 2017. Emily testified

that she moved away to her mother’s home “due to seeing things and not feeling

comfortable.” When Michael was released from incarceration, the couple and their

children lived in one of John’s houses for seven months; Emily and the children

remained in the home for another two months after Michael died. John testified

for about a year or two following Michael’s death, he saw the children on
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Wednesdays around 8:00 p.m. before their 9:00 p.m. bedtime. But Emily and her

new husband testified that it was only for three to four months before there was a

communication breakdown and visits ceased. Emily also testified that after that

“communication” breakdown, John was frustrated about not seeing the children

and he threatened to come to the children’s school or her new husband’s work.

Around March 2023, Emily and her new husband moved and she did not

tell John where she was living, so all communication, including visitations, ceased.

At the time of trial, she and John lived about thirty minutes apart in the same

county. But before that, frustrated by the lack of contact, John filed for grandparent

visitation in August. Pending trial, he and Emily worked out a temporary stipulation

where, starting in February 2024, he would have supervised visits on the second

Sunday of every month for two hours. When he was over thirty minutes late to the

August visitation, Emily discontinued the visits, citing the part of the agreement that

allowed her to terminate visits if John missed a visit without reasonable notice or

excuse. They did not communicate after that point.

At the September trial, both John and Emily testified. Emily also called her

new husband and her sister as witnesses. The district court found that John had

not met his burden to rebut the presumption that Emily’s decision was in the

children’s best interests. John appeals.

Standard of Review.

“We review the district court’s denial of grandparent visitation de novo.”

Clausen v. Clausen, No. 14-0630, 2014 WL 7343458, at *3 (Iowa Ct. App.

Dec. 24, 2014). “We give weight to the fact findings of the juvenile court, especially
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regarding the credibility of witnesses, but [we] are not bound by them.” In re K.R.,

537 N.W.2d 774, 776 (Iowa 1995).

Discussion.

Because grandparents had no common law rights to visitation, see id., our

legislature decided to allow grandparents a path to petition for visitation of their

grandchildren when “the parent of the minor child, who is the child of the

grandparent . . . is deceased,” Iowa Code § 600C.1(1). But, “[a] rebuttable

presumption arises that a fit parent’s decision to deny visitation to a

grandparent . . . is in the best interest of . . . minor child[ren].” Id. § 600C.1(2). To

decide if that presumption has been rebutted, the district court is required to find

the grandparent proved all of the following elements by clear and convincing

evidence:

a. It is in the best interest of the child to grant such visitation.
b. The grandparent . . . has established a substantial
relationship with the child prior to the filing of the petition.
c. That the presumption that the parent who is being asked to
temporarily relinquish care, custody, and control of the child to
provide visitation is fit to make the decision regarding visitation is
overcome by demonstrating one of the following:
(1) The parent is unfit to make such decision.
(2) The parent’s judgment has been impaired and the relative
benefit to the child of granting visitation greatly outweighs any
effect on the parent-child relationship. Impaired judgment of a
parent may be evidenced by any of, but not limited to, the following
[enumerated conditions].[1]

Id. § 600C.1(3).

After hearing the evidence at trial, the district court concluded:

1 At trial, Emily’s counsel went through the enumerated conditions related to the

parent’s impairment, and John admitted Emily did not fall under any of them and
did not raise any of the conditions to attack the presumption. So, we do not list
them here.
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John did not prove by clear and convincing evidence that
grandparent visitation: (1) was in the best interest of the children;
(2) there was a legally “substantial relationship” between himself and
grandchildren; and (3) either (a) Emily was unfit to make such a
visitation decision, or (b) Emily’s judgment was impaired and the
benefit to the child of grandparent visitation exceeds the effect on the
parent-child relationship.

While the district court denied John’s request for grandparent rights, it emphasized

that Emily would be the decision-maker as to any future contact, leaving the

chance that there may be contact down the road. The district court noted: “This is

not to say John is unworthy of some form of visitation with his grandchildren. Under

these facts, however, this Court is statutorily constrained to reserve that visitation

decision to Emily rather than prescribing grandparent visitation in the form of a

court order.”

Starting with the last element John was required to prove, that Emily was

either unfit or impaired in her decision-making, as noted above John made no

mention at trial related to any of the enumerated elements of impairment. And no

one contested that Emily was a “fit parent.” In fact, John described Emily as a

“good parent.” Thus, because John failed to rebut the presumption involving

Emily’s decision, which was one of the three elements he had to address under

the statute, we find the petition was appropriately dismissed. See Clausen, 2014

WL 7343458, at *4 (finding “resolution of this issue [the presumption] is dispositive,

we do not need to consider whether a substantial relationship between [the

grandparent] and the grandchildren exists nor whether it is in the best interests of

the children to award [grandparent] visitation”).
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Conclusion.

Given the standard requiring clear and convincing evidence, we agree that

John did not meet his burden to overcome the presumption that Emily acted in the

best interests of the children in limiting and then denying him visits with the

grandchildren. We affirm the denial of his petition for grandparent visitation.

AFFIRMED.