Ahmed Ala Hussin Ali Alibrahimy v. Kasondra Lee Massengale

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 22-0594
Filed November 2, 2022

AHMED ALA HUSSIN ALI ALIBRAHIMY,
Plaintiff-Appellee,

vs.

KASONDRA LEE MASSENGALE,
Defendant-Appellant.
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Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Hardin County, Jennifer Miller,

Judge.

The mother appeals the award of joint physical care. AFFIRMED AS

MODIFIED AND REMANDED.

Joel C. Waters of Kaplan & Frese, LLP, Marshalltown, for appellant.

David R. Fiester of the Law Office of David R. Fiester, Cedar Rapids, for

appellee.

Considered by Vaitheswaran, P.J., and Greer and Schumacher, JJ.
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GREER, Judge.

Kasondra Massengale and Ahmed Alibrahimy started a relationship in

2013, but never married. They did, however, have two children1; one born in 2015

and one in 2016. After they ended the relationship in November 2018, their

involvement with the children changed. Ahmed asserts that Kasondra moved to

Ohio, leaving the children with him for over two months in 2019, and then came

back and disrupted his custody plan by removing the children and not allowing him

contact. Kasondra contended she was the primary parental figure for all of the

children’s lives and that, most compelling, Ahmed was not involved for the past

several years on any consistent basis. At trial, Ahmed requested joint legal

custody and joint physical care over the children. Kasondra agreed with joint legal

custody but requested the district court award her physical care. The district court

found Ahmed’s position more compelling, and Kasondra appeals the award of joint

physical care. We agree with Kasondra’s position; we modify the district court’s

determination of physical care and remand for further proceedings to determine

the appropriate child support.

The sole issue in this case turns on the determination of the custodial

arrangement. Because custody matters are tried in equity, our review of these

proceedings is de novo. Iowa R. App. P. 6.907. “[W]e examine the entire record

and decide anew the issues properly presented.” In re Marriage of Rhinehart, 704

N.W.2d 677, 680 (Iowa 2005). “Although we give weight to the factual findings of

1Kasondra’s nine-year-old child from a different relationship also resides with her
with no involvement by that child’s father.
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the district court, we are not bound by them.” In re Marriage of Mauer, 874 N.W.2d

103, 106 (Iowa 2016).

At the time of trial, Ahmed was twenty-six years old and Kasondra was

twenty-eight years old. Both acknowledged a rocky relationship in the distant past,

but neither parent raised any recent conflict between the two.2 In fact, after the

couple’s separation in 2018, Ahmed had little contact, essentially exercising

sporadic visitation with the children, citing a busy schedule working at a dog food

plant.3 But in September 2019, Kasondra asked Ahmed to care for the children

while she left the state of Iowa to attend to family issues in Ohio. Kasondra testified

she was gone only a few weeks, returning at the end of October, but Ahmed

testified he cared for the children until January 2020. After Kasondra’s return,

Ahmed requested that he retain primary care of the children. He testified he

allowed Kasondra a weekend visitation and then she failed to return the children

or allow him contact with the children after that point.

Kasondra’s move of denying Ahmed contact prompted him to file a self-

represented petition for custody in February 2020. Although there was an order

requiring mediation, nothing happened and the district court filed a September

order again requiring mediation or the petition would be dismissed. Now

represented, Ahmed requested a hearing on temporary custody, child support, and

2 Although Kasondra points to the earlier conflict as supporting the third factor in
In re Marriage of Hansen—that the degree of conflict between parents should
weigh towards the appropriateness of a joint physical care arrangement—her
arguments actually go towards the second factor concerning the ability to
communicate and show mutual respect. See 733 N.W.2d 683, 698 (Iowa 2007).
3 At this plant, Ahmed testified he was working third shift from 6:00 p.m. to 6:00

a.m. But Kasondra testified he only had this job for a couple of months.
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visitation. The hearing on temporary matters was set for December 2020. To

comply with the earlier court order, mediation occurred in October 2020, but the

parties could not come to an agreement.4 The attorneys continued the hearing

two times. A temporary hearing never was held, but there was a pending trial date

set for June 2021. That trial did not occur on that date either. And in September

2021, the district court noted that while the trial was cancelled because the parties

alerted the court to a settlement, no party had filed any stipulation. Ahmed’s

attorney of record requested she withdraw over a “breakdown in communication.”

The district court granted that request and then, noting the settlement had “fallen

apart,” reset the matter for trial. Trial took place in March 2022 with each party

represented by the counsel who appear before us in this appeal.

Both parties concede that joint legal custody is appropriate, they only

dispute the physical-care question. When deciding who should have physical care,

we search the record for facts that resolve the issue not “upon perceived fairness

to the [parents], but primarily upon what is best for the child[ren].” Hansen, 733

N.W.2d at 695. “The objective of a physical care determination is to place the

children in the environment most likely to bring them to health, both physically and

mentally, and to social maturity.” Id. “When determining who will have physical

care of the child, we will consider ‘stability and continuity with an eye toward

providing the [children] with the best environment possible for [the children’s]

continued development and growth.’” Meller v. Hendrickson, No. 19-1096, 2020

WL 374565, at *3 (Iowa Ct. App. Jan. 23, 2020) (quoting Hansen, 733 N.W.2d at

4 Ahmed testified that after the mediation he saw the children every other weekend
for his visitation until he moved to Omaha in December.
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700). “[T]he factors of continuity, stability, and approximation are entitled to

considerable weight.” Id. (alteration in original) (quoting Hansen, 733 N.W.2d at

700). “These factors favor a parent who was primarily responsible for physical

care of the children,” though we examine each case’s unique facts. In re Marriage

of Bain, No. 07-0333, 2008 WL 4325499, at *3 (Iowa Ct. App. Sept. 17, 2008).

Finally, when children are born of out wedlock, Iowa Code section 598.41 shall

apply to the determination. See Iowa Code § 600B.40 (2020); In re Marriage of

Winter, 223 N.W.2d 165, 166–67 (Iowa 1974) (applying the factors to consider

under section 598.41 when determining who should be the primary caretaker).

To evaluate what physical-care arrangement is in the best interests of the

children, we review both the history and current status of these parents. At the

time of trial, Kasondra was living in a mobile home in Eldora with her mother and

grandmother, along with her three children, although she was looking to line up

her own place. She was working close to a full-time schedule at a sandwich shop.

Ahmed started a relationship with his girlfriend in October 2021, and at the time of

trial he lived in a large house in Iowa Falls with his girlfriend, her child, and his twin

brothers. The towns where the parents reside are close in distance. As of August

2021, Ahmed was working at a casino that is an hour away from his home.

Explaining he has Sunday, Monday, and Thursdays off, Ahmed described his work

hours as “weekdays that are not Fridays and Saturdays, I work from 5 p.m. to

3 a.m. And then on the Friday, Saturdays, I work from 8 p.m. to 6 a.m.” So, on

weekdays, with the hour drive tacked on to each side of his workday, Ahmed would

not be available to care for the children from 4:00 p.m. to 4:00 a.m. and on

weekends from 7:00 p.m. until 7:00 a.m. He testified the children go to school from
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7:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m., but according to Kasondra, they actually go to school at

different times: the oldest goes from 8:15 a.m. to 3:30 p.m. and the youngest has

classes from 12:30 p.m. to 3:30 p.m. And, Ahmed did not detail who would be

watching the children while his work conflicted. Although he claimed he “would be

able to” change his shift at work if needed, he made no effort to do so as of the

date of trial.

While Ahmed lauded his parenting track record by explaining his care of the

children when Kasondra went to Ohio, Kasondra painted a more comprehensive

timeline. Kasondra testified that Ahmed had limited visitation, one weekend per

month, from the time of their separation until September 2019 when she left for

Ohio to handle family matters. She claimed she only left the children for a few

weeks and returned in October 2019. Unlike Kasondra who has stayed in one

area, the record reflected that Ahmed has lived in Iowa Falls, near the children, but

also in several other towns not as close, including Omaha, Nebraska, before

returning to the area in late July 2021. But more troubling, from when Ahmed left

for Omaha in December 2020 because his step-dad kicked him out until he

returned to the area, he did not exercise visitation with the children over those

approximately seven months. Without contesting that history, Ahmed testified he

maintained contact during this time over video calls when his step-dad occasionally

had care of the children. According to Kasondra, after he returned in July 2021,

Ahmed exercised visitation every other weekend for the next three or four months,

with Kasondra providing the transportation.

But, at the March 2022 trial, Ahmed maintained he had last seen the

children around the end of January and that Kasondra had stopped allowing
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weekend visits in “late August, early October” 2021. Although, Ahmed blamed

Kasondra for the time he was not spending with the children, noting that she

“withheld the children and provid[ed] contact only on ‘her terms,’” other than a

request for a hearing on temporary matters that was never held, the record

contains no evidence of efforts made by Ahmed to access more time with the

children. And when pressed, Ahmed admitted the fifty-fifty schedule he advocated

would “start something new right now and have a schedule that the children have

not been used to for the past three and a half years.”

As for communication between the parents, Kasondra indicated that Ahmed

blocked her on his messaging application so she was unable to communicate with

him until just before trial when she got access to Ahmed’s cell phone number. And

Ahmed had never taken the children to school and had not attended their medical

appointments since 2019. He had not taken them to the dentist and did not know

who their dentist was. The record did not show any efforts by him to stay in touch

over important issues, such as the younger child’s special needs or the children’s

schooling. See Hansen, 733 N.W.2d at 698 (noting that communication between

the parents is a significant factor to consider in a joint physical care analysis).

At trial, Ahmed maintained that prior to Kasondra depriving him of visitation,

they shared care of the children, but we find no evidence of that sharing of care for

any sustained period of time over the lives of these children. Albeit, Ahmed did

assume care of the children when Kasondra took leave to help family in Ohio, but

that was short-lived. And, he emphasized that time frame as support for his

“historic contribution to physical care in roughly the same proportion,” but outside

of that 2019 event, he offers no other evidence. Even assuming this primary care
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role lasted a few months in 2019, depending on which version is believed, this is

not supportive of a joint physical care award considering the children are now ages

six and seven. We find it more compelling that in the three years before trial,

Ahmed had little involvement in the care of the children. And in those last three

years, we find no evidence in the record that shows Ahmed’s involvement in the

children’s schooling or health care or his support or acknowledgement of the

special needs of these children.

Contrast that evidence with the testimony over the mother’s role. Kasondra

proved extensive involvement with the children and their needs overall. She

explained that one child had special needs to consider as that child is diagnosed

with ADHD, night terrors, and learning disabilities and has to attend doctor

appointments with a specialist every three to six months. She offered detailed

examples of activities she did with the children, how involved she was with their

schooling and healthcare, and how close the younger children were with their half-

sibling. Kasondra made time with the children her priority; she testified:

Oh, yes. So they’re in my care when I’m not at work or when
they’re not in school. So it’s just not really a scheduling thing. It’s
just I schedule myself around their schooling system. And then when
they’re not in school and I’m not at work, they’re in my care.

Ahmed offered no testimony about his role in the day-to-day routine that involves

the mental and physical health or social maturity of the children. So, in the

children’s lives, Kasondra has assumed the primary caretaker role. See id. at 697

(examining the concepts of stability and continuity under a principle of

approximation, which holds “the caregiving of parents in the post-divorce world

should be in rough proportion to that which predated the dissolution”).
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There is no dispute that Ahmed loves his children and wants to maintain a

close and supportive relationship with them; the concern is that he has yet to show

he can provide care on a daily basis. This is not a dress rehearsal for that test,

and we know that “imposing a new physical care arrangement on children that

significantly contrasts from their past experience can be unsettling, cause serious

emotional harm, and thus not be in the child’s best interest.” Id. We are unable to

find facts or conclusions of law in this case that support a joint physical care

arrangement. See Hensch v. Mysak, 902 N.W.2d 822, 825 (Iowa Ct. App. 2017)

(“[I]n family law matters, past performance is a strong indicator of what is yet to

come.”). Instead, the principles of continuity, stability, and approximation favor

granting physical care to Kasondra. See Hansen, 733 N.W.2d at 697.

As one of her reasons to grant physical care to her, Kasondra raises the

point that she has full-time care of her older child, the children’s half-sibling. She

argues this factor weighs in favor for having physical care of the younger two

children. See In re Marriage of Orte, 389 N.W.2d 373, 374 (Iowa 1986) (applying

the principle of keeping children together to half-sibling relationships). “However,

this principle does not mandate a parent with physical care of a half-sibling be

awarded physical care of the child[ren] at issue despite other compelling factors

militating against an award of physical care to that parent.” Van Gundy v. Bolton,

No. 18-1838, 2019 WL 2145848, at *3 (Iowa Ct. App. May 15, 2019) (collecting

cases). Yet in this section of her brief, Kasondra failed to cite any authority so we

do not address this factor. See Iowa R. App. P. 6.903(2)(g)(3) (providing that

failure to cite authority in support of an issue may be deemed waiver of that issue).
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We agree with the district court decision to order joint legal custody for these

parents. But we reverse the determination of joint physical care. We find joint

physical care is not warranted and that Kasondra should be awarded physical care

of the two children with liberal visitation to Ahmed. See Iowa Code § 598.41(1)(a);

see also In re Marriage of Hynick, 727 N.W.2d 575, 579 (Iowa 2007) (finding

visitation rights are afforded to a parent who is not the primary caretaker). Our

difficulty is that neither Kasondra or Ahmed argued for a specific visitation schedule

for Ahmed before the district court or in the appellate briefs.

Thus, under our de novo review we find that the “General Parenting

Schedule” crafted by the district court shall be changed to a visitation schedule of

every other weekend for Ahmed and the children. If Ahmed cannot change his

current work schedule to accommodate a weekend visitation from Friday after

school until Sunday at 6:00 p.m. and has the current work schedule as described

at trial, he shall exercise his visitation on Sunday, starting at 8:00 a.m. until

Tuesday morning when school starts. Otherwise, if he no longer has those days

off, the default visitation time shall be the every-other-weekend schedule. Ahmed

shall be responsible for transporting the children to and from school if he is

exercising his visitation. We are mindful that the district court established more

extensive contact with the children for Ahmed under its custody plan, so we

encourage Kasondra to allow one mid-week visitation that gives Ahmed the first

option for care if Ahmed has time off work over such daytime hours to not interfere

with the best interests of the children or their schooling.

The district court’s holiday schedule (b) through (h), the summer visitation

schedule for visitation, and the transportation plan remain as set in the order. All
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other provisions in the district court’s order relating to the expenses and care of

the children shall remain unchanged, except that, using the annual income of the

parties as determined by the court in the order, the district court should calculate

the child support obligation of Ahmed, based upon the revised visitation schedule.

AFFIRMED AS MODIFIED AND REMANDED.