In the Interest of K.B. and M.B., Minor Children, K.S., Mother, K.B., Father

IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA

No. 14-0849
Filed June 24, 2015

IN THE INTEREST OF K.B. AND M.B.,
Minor Children,

K.S., Mother,
Petitioner-Appellee,

K.B., Father,
Respondent-Appellant.
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Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Polk County, Lawrence P.

McLellan, Judge.

The father appeals the district court’s grant of the mother’s petition to

terminate the father’s parental rights to their two children, K.B. and M.B.

AFFIRMED.

Nicholas Dial of Benzoni Law Office, P.L.C., Des Moines, for appellee

mother.

Christine Sand of Wild, Baxter & Sand, P.C., Guthrie Center, for appellant

father.

Considered by Vogel, P.J., and Potterfield and Mullins, JJ.
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VOGEL, P.J.

The father appeals the district court’s grant of the mother’s petition to

terminate the father’s parental rights to their two children, K.B. and M.B. He

asserts the court improperly terminated his rights under Iowa Code section

600A.8(3) (2013), claiming: (1) he did not abandon the children, as the mother

prevented him from contacting the children; (2) he lacked the requisite intent to

abandon, as required by the statute; (3) the mother failed to prove by clear and

convincing evidence he did not financially support the children; and

(4) termination of his parental rights is not in the children’s best interests. We

agree with the district court the father abandoned the children within the meaning

of Iowa Code section 600A.8(b) by failing to maintain contact. Furthermore,

termination of the father’s parental rights is in the children’s best interests.

Consequently, we affirm the order of the district court terminating the father’s

parental rights.

I. Factual and Procedural Background

The mother and father were married in 1999 and their marriage was

dissolved in 2006. K.B. was born December 1998, and M.B. was born June

2001. In approximately 2005, the father began using methamphetamine. The

mother asked him to either obtain treatment or leave; he chose to leave for four

months, during which time he had minimal contact with the children. He returned

briefly for K.B.’s fifth birthday, but was visibly going through withdrawal. He told

K.B. he was leaving to get something from the garage but never returned. K.B.

stated this is the only memory she has of the father. M.B. has no memory of him.
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The dissolution decree was entered after the father’s default. It granted

the mother full custody of the children, with the father only allowed supervised

visitation through Generations Inc., until such time as he could demonstrate he

was “totally drug free.” The decree further stated the father could not have

contact with the mother “except for visitation information or rights.” The father

filed a motion to set aside the default judgment, stating he could not arrange for

the supervised visitation through Generations because it no longer provided

those services, though he suggested no other agency that could provide similar

services. The district court denied the motion and no further action was taken by

the father. The father has never exercised his visitation rights and has not seen

the children since 2006.

The father has had no other contact with the children. Two letters were

sent by the father’s attorney in 2007 and 2009 requesting visitation with the

children. The letters stated the father was sober1 but failed to suggest an agency

that could provide supervised visitation. The mother did not respond to these

letters. The father made no attempt to contact the children in any other manner,

and he only very occasionally inquired as to their wellbeing through other family

members. At the hearing, the father’s testimony established he had extremely

minimal knowledge about the children’s lives.

The father has been involved with the criminal justice system since his first

arrest in April 2006. He has been incarcerated based on convictions for the

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The first letter stated the father was being drug tested as a condition of his probation
and the tests had come back clean; it also provided the number for his probation officer.
The second letter stated it enclosed copies of negative drug tests but only the letter was
entered into the record.
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possession of a controlled substance, and re-incarcerated when he violated

parole by again using methamphetamine. The father has been incarcerated for

the majority of the children’s lives. At the hearing, the father testified he was

currently attending an inpatient substance abuse treatment as a condition of his

probation stemming from a conviction in November 2013.

Despite attending numerous drug treatment programs, the record

establishes the father has been unable to resolve his methamphetamine

addiction. While incarcerated, he remained sober for approximately a year. As

of the hearing, the longest period the father has been sober while not

incarcerated or in a rehabilitation program was nine months. He testified that he

is more committed now to regaining sobriety than he has been in the past.

The mother has lived in the same house for the past nine years and has

maintained the same cell phone number.2 She is remarried and the children

view her husband as their father. Both children share a substantial bond with

him, and he has indicated that he wishes to adopt them. In all respects the

children are thriving. Additionally, for some time the children’s paternal

grandfather lived close by and had frequent contact with the children and the

mother. The children shared a close bond with him until his death in 2010. He

also provided financial support for the children in order to partially satisfy the

father’s child support obligation, primarily in lump sum payments. The father’s

contributions to his support obligation consisted of the garnishment of his wages

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The father testified one of the primary reasons he failed to contact the mother so as to
establish visitation was because he did not know her phone number or where she lived.
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and income tax returns. His last payment was in June 2013, and, after

contributing $19,327.85, he remained $11,024.35 in arrears.

The mother petitioned to terminate the father’s parental rights on October

31, 2013, under Iowa Code chapter 600A. A hearing was held on March 26,

2014, and the district court terminated the father’s parental rights by an order

filed May 1, 2014. The father appeals.

II. Standard of Review

We review termination proceedings brought pursuant to Iowa Code

chapter 600A de novo. In re C.A.V., 787 N.W.2d 96, 99 (Iowa Ct. App. 2010).

We are not bound by the district court’s factual findings, but we accord them

weight, particularly with regard to its findings on the credibility of witnesses. Id.

Additionally, our primary concern is the best interests of the children. Id.

With respect to the standard for terminating parental rights, Iowa Code

section 600A.8 states:

The juvenile court shall base its findings and order under
section 600A.9 on clear and convincing proof. The following shall
be, either separately or jointly, grounds for ordering termination of
parental rights:
....
3. The parent has abandoned the child. For the purposes of
this subsection, a parent is deemed to have abandoned a child as
follows:
....
b. If the child is six months of age or older when the
termination hearing is held, a parent is deemed to have abandoned
the child unless the parent maintains substantial and continuous or
repeated contact with the child as demonstrated by contribution
toward support of the child of a reasonable amount, according to
the parent’s means, and as demonstrated by any of the following:
(1) Visiting the child at least monthly when physically and
financially able to do so and when not prevented from doing so by
the person having lawful custody of the child.
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(2) Regular communication with the child or with the person
having the care or custody of the child, when physically and
financially unable to visit the child or when prevented from visiting
the child by the person having lawful custody of the child.
(3) Openly living with the child for a period of six months
within the one-year period immediately preceding the termination of
parental rights hearing and during that period openly holding
himself or herself out to be the parent of the child.

Iowa Code § 600A.8(3)(b)(1)–(3). In addition to these factors, the parent must

also have the intent to abandon the children. See C.A.V., 787 N.W.2d at 101.

III. Abandonment

The father asserts he did not abandon the children within the meaning of

Iowa Code section 600A.8(b)(3). He asserts he attempted to have meaningful

contact with the children but was prevented from doing so by the mother,

particularly because she would not respond to the letters sent by his attorney or

arrange visitation. The mother responds it was the father’s responsibility to

demonstrate his sobriety and find a suitable supervisor, neither of which he did.

However, the father relies on his paid child support in the amount of $19,327.85,

to demonstrate he did not have the intent to abandon the children.

With regard to its finding of abandonment, the district court stated:

The evidence clearly and convincingly establishes that [the father]
abandoned his children as early as 2006. He has not made an
effort since that time to be a parent to these children, he has not
met his financial obligations to them, he has not demonstrated a
continued interest in them, he has not maintained any
communication with them, and he has not established or
maintained a place of importance in their lives.

We agree with this statement as well as the court’s finding the father

abandoned the children within the meaning of chapter 600A. K.B. has one brief

recollection of her father—when he arrived at her fifth birthday party after
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abusing, then showing signs of withdrawal from methamphetamine—M.B. does

not remember him at all. This is because the father has never attempted to

contact the children directly, and has only sporadically, over a period of nine

years, attempted to achieve contact through other means. However, he

maintains the mother prevented him from having contact with the children. The

record, though, does not support this assertion. Pursuant to the custody order,

the father was required to demonstrate his sobriety before he could have contact

with the children. However, he failed to do so beyond an assertion by his

attorney he was not using methamphetamine; nor did he suggest an agency that

could supervise the visits. Consequently, the father’s lack of contact was due to

his conduct rather than the mother’s actions, and therefore Iowa Code section

600A.8(3)(b)(1) does not preclude the finding of abandonment. See id. (noting

the parent can establish he did not abandon the children by: “Visiting the child at

least monthly when physically and financially able to do so and when not

prevented from doing so by the person having lawful custody of the child”).

The father’s frequent incarceration also contributed to his inability to see

the children. During that time, the father spoke often with his father—who had

contact with the mother—and the father only inquired about the children once.

Nor did he attempt to communicate by phone, email, or letters with the children

during his incarceration. Rather, two letters were sent by his attorney indicating

the father wished to exercise his visitation rights. Nonetheless, the father cannot

rely on his incarceration to excuse his lack of contact, and the subsequent lack of

a bond, with the children. See In re M.M.S., 502 N.W.2d 4, 8 (Iowa 1993)

(recognizing that a parent “cannot use his incarceration as a justification for his
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lack of relationship with [a] child . . . especially . . . when the incarceration results

from a lifestyle that is chosen in preference to, and at the expense of, a

relationship with the child”). This incarceration is primarily due to the father’s

status as an abuser of methamphetamine, a lifestyle that has kept him away from

the children. Based on the father’s conduct, the district court properly found clear

and convincing evidence established the father abandoned the children pursuant

to Iowa Code section 600A.8(b)(3). See M.M.S., 502 N.W.2d at 11 (noting total

desertion is not required to establish abandonment).

Furthermore, though the father states he has been paying child support,

this is not enough to overcome his complete lack of effort to maintain any sort of

relationship with the children. A father’s “contributions to his child’s financial well-

being do not overcome his complete abstention from fostering [the child’s]

physical, social, and emotional development.” C.A.V., 787 N.W.2d at 102.

Another important consideration is that the father is still over $11,000 in arrears

regarding his child support obligation. We further note that it was the children’s

paternal grandfather, as opposed to the father, who was the primary contributor

to the father’s support obligation.

Nor do we agree with the father’s argument his payments of child support

establish he lacked the intent to abandon the children. His last payment was in

June 2013; furthermore, his individual contributions consisted of the

government’s garnishment of his income tax returns and wages. Rather, the

children’s grandfather provided most of the financial support. This lack of effort

on the father’s behalf to provide financial support to the children shows the father

had the requisite intent to abandon. See id. (noting the parent must demonstrate
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the intent to abandon the child in order to establish abandonment).

Consequently, we conclude the district court properly found the mother proved by

clear and convincing evidence the father abandoned the children, and that

termination of his parental rights was proper pursuant to Iowa Code section

600A.8(3)(b).

IV. Best Interests

Furthermore, we do not agree with the father’s contention that termination

of his parental rights is not in the children’s best interests. The children are

currently thriving, without having had any significant contact with the father for

the vast majority of their lives. They do not share a bond with the father and he

does not know anything of significance about their lives. Moreover, the father

cannot maintain sobriety. The longest period in which he did not abuse

methamphetamine—while not incarcerated—was nine months, over a period of

nearly ten years. A parent’s past behavior is indicative of his future behavior.

See In re Dameron, 306 N.W.2d 743, 745 (Iowa 1981). It is clearly not in the

children’s best interest to expose them to a methamphetamine-addicted father,

particularly one with whom they share no bond and have little if any memory of

him.

We also find it encouraging that, beyond thriving in their current

environment, the children have a father-figure in the form of their step-father. He

is very involved in their lives, shares a strong bond with each of them, and has

demonstrated a desire to adopt them. The children would like to change their

last names to reflect their step-father’s last name.
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Based on the foregoing, we conclude termination of the father’s parental

rights is in the children’s best interest; therefore, we affirm the district court’s

order terminating the father’s parental rights to K.B. and M.B.

AFFIRMED.